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9-Bhavishya Puraan, 1-Braahm Parv, p 19-25

This section, Braahm Parv, is on p 1-222 of the book and mostly contains information about Soorya.


Type of Girl

Sumantu Muni said - "After Ved studies are over, one should enter Grihasth Dharm. One should welcome a Brahmchaaree with a flower garland, make him sit on a bed, and worship him with Madhupark. Then he should marry a girl from his own caste with the permission of his Guru.
[Here Sumantu Muni tells the auspicious marks of a good girl.]

He further says - "Still a qualitative girl is better than a girl with auspicious signs, that is why while choosing a girl one must consider her good conduct." Shataaneek said - Now I want to know about their good conduct." Sumantu Muni said - "Once Rishi asked this question Brahmaa Jee, he said - "After finishing his education one should first start earning money by good Karm, then only he should marry. Without wealth marriage is just a dream, that is why one should enter Grihasth Aashram after starting earning money. It is good to live in Narak, than to see his family hungry. As there is no Grihasth Aashram without wife, in the same way people without money have no right to be a Grihasth. Some people consider only their children the means of Tri-Varg (Dharm, Arth, Kaam), but learned people say that wealth and good woman are the means of Tri-Varg.

Dharm is said to be of two types - Isht Dharm and Poort Dharm. Doing Yagya etc is called Isht Dharm, and digging wells, ponds etc is called Poort Dharm; and both need wealth. Wealth is the only root of Tri-Varg. Whoever is wealthy he automatically acquire many qualities, such as Vidyaa, family, and good conduct; and all these qualities are gone if a person is poor. Wealth is got only by doing Punya in previous life; and Punya is earned by doing Punya; thus both are closely related. That is why one should earn money before marrying.

Marriage is of three types - marrying in a lower standard family, marrying in equal standard family and marrying in upper standard family. If one marries in a lower standard family, it becomes the cause of defame; if somebody marries in an upper standard family, those people insult; that is why one should marry in one's equal standard family."

About Marriage

Brahmaa Jee said - "Hey Muni, Whoever girl is not from mother's Sa-Pind (mother's seven generations up), and does not belong to father's Gotra, that girl is considered auspicious for the marriages in Dwi-Jaati. The girl who has no brother and no information is available about her father, an intelligent person should not marry such a girl because of the fear of "Putrikaa Dharm". To follow Dharm, one should marry to a girl of his own Varn.

Marriages are of eight types - 
(1) Braahm - Inviting a good noble groom, adorning him with ornaments, worshipping him and then offering one's girl is called Braahm marriage. 
(2) Daiv Marriage - When one meets somebody while doing Yagya and he is also doing Yagya, by adorning him with ornaments and offering him one's daughter is called Daiv marriage.
(3) Aarsh Marriage - When one gives his daughter to a groom taking one or two couples cow and bull from him for the purpose of Dharm and adorning him with ornaments, it is called Aarsh Marriage.
(4) Praajaapatya Marriage - When one marries one's daughter saying "You follow Grihasth Dharm by living together" and worshipping the groom, that marriage is called Praajaapatya marriage.
(5) Aasur Marriage - When a groom marries a girl with a free will after giving enough wealth to her and her father, it is called Aasur or Aasuree marriage.
(6) Gaandharv Marriage - When the girl and groom marry with their free will, it is called Gaandharv marriage.
(7) Raakshas Marriage - When one marries weeping crying girl by abducting her, it is called Raakshas marriage.
(8) Paishaach Marriage - When one marries a drunk, mad, or sleeping girl abducted secretly, it is called Paishaach marriage. It is the meanest type of marriage.

Whoever son is born from Braahm marriage, he uplifts his 10 generations up and 10 generations down and of himself too - 21 generations. Whoever son is born from Daiv marriage, he uplifts 7 generations up and 7 generations down - 14 generations. Whoever son is born from Aarsh marriage he uplifts his 3 generations up and 3 generations down. Whoever son is born from Praajaapatya marriage, he uplifts his 6 generations up and 6 generations down.

The sons who are born from the first four marriages are qualitative, prosperous, have sons, famous, religious, and live long; the sons who are born from the other four marriages are cruel, non-religious, and liars; therefore the last four types of marriages should not be performed.

The girl's father should not take any wealth from groom's father, if he does this, he becomes the seller of his child. Whoever husband or father etc relations use girl's money, they fall down from their standards. If a father takes a couple of cows in Aarsh marriage, it is also like taking the price of the girl, whether it is less or more. When the groom's things given to the girl are given to the girl only, that is not called selling. This is the worship of unmarried girls."

Rishi asked - "Which is that country if one lives there, his fame and Dharm grow?" Brahmaa Jee said - "Where Dharm exists with its four feet, where learned people live, and all behave according to Shaastra, the same country is the best to live."

Rishi again asked - "Tell us which conduct learned people follow? And which conduct is according to Dharm Shaastra?" Brahmaa Jee said - "It is not good to desire for anything. To study Ved and to act according to Ved are also desires. Sankalp gives way to wishes. Reading Ved, doing Yagya, Vrat, disciplines, Dharm etc Karm all are the roots of Sankalp, that is why all Yagya, Daan (donations) etc Karm are done with reading Sanklp. There is no such activity in which there is no Karm, and whatever is done (i.e. Karm) that is done only by desire.

Note
Desire (Kaam) is one of the four Purushaarth (the ends of the life) - Dharm, Arth, Kaam and Moksh). Desire of doing Yog, Yagya, Jap, Tap, establishing Dharm, even Mukti is an auspicious desire. In Geetaa 7/11, Bhagavaan orders people to divert their mind to Him only. This, in one way, is the mother of Nish-Kaam feeling.

Shruti, Smriti, good conduct and the happiness of oneself - these four decide the Dharm. Whatever Dharm are said in Shruti and Smriti, following them brings much fame in this world and Indra Lok after death. Shruti is another name of Ved, and Smriti are Dharm Shaastra. All conduct should be measured up by their standards, because they are the roots of Dharm. Whoever insults their standard, a good person should abandon such a man, because by telling them bad that man is like a Naastik (atheist).

Whoever are prescribed for all the 16 Sanskaar (Braahman, Kshatriya and Vaishya), only those people have the right on Ved and Jaap. The land between Saraswatee and Drishdwatee is called Brahmaavart. As the people living there behave, that is known as the good conduct. Kurukshetra, Matsya Kshetra, Paanchaal and Shoorsen Desh (Mathuraa) - Brahmarshi live here, but they are a little lower that Brahmaavart. All Braahman learn their conduct from them. In the middle of Himaalaya and Vindhya Parvat, east to Vinashan and west to Prayaag is called Madhya Desh. Between these two Parvat and from east sea to west sea area is called Aayaavart. The places which are different from them are known as Mlechchh Desh.

 

 

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